How many of us find ourselves constantly comparing our lives with those around us? You may say at first that you don’t, but if you take time to really consider this question most of us find we compare all the time. Whether it’s our possessions, appearances, performance or circumstances – we are prone to compare our life to those around us. God’s word instructs us to not compare with others here on Earth.
2 Corinthians 10:12
12For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
Comparison ruins our ability to be content with the things we do have. The moment we start to make comparisons our existing possessions suddenly are not good enough. Or our circumstances in life are not what we think they should be. Maybe your friends have high paying jobs, live in a huge house, have kids and have started a family but you still haven’t found Mr. or Ms. right. You find yourself asking God what is wrong with you and saying things are not fair. It becomes harder to be content with the things God has blessed you with. Comparison kills our joy and robs us of our identity.
When we compare, we resent God’s goodness in other’s lives and ignore God’s blessings in our own life. We must learn to be content. It’s an action that takes practice and commitment. Success is not about getting more stuff or becoming who someone else is – that is not the goal. God is the goal. Being who God wants you to be is success.
1 Timothy 6:6-7
6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.
So how do we overcome the pitfalls of comparison? For me it started when I realized what I have. Consider just for a moment the value of the incredible, underserved gift our Father has given to us. He has given us mercy, grace, forgiveness – a new life in Christ. My Lord and God has blessed me to be a husband to my beautiful wife, a dad to my three (soon to be four) children and a member of His church. What more do we need in this life? If we focus on what we have and who we are in Christ we begin to realize we are already blessed beyond measure. It’s impossible to fathom just how freely our Savior and Lord has lavished us and how He continues to bless us time and time again – thank you Lord!!